breaking up - sad womanBreaking Up? Handle With Care! You will feel better about yourself if you don’t succumb to your worst impulses. Do not contact other people who have been interested in you to make yourself feel better or get involved with someone else - emotionally or sexually - right away. For one thing, it isn't fair to the person,who could become the victim of your rebound. But most importantly, it isn't fair to you. You need to grieve, and you need to heal. Allow yourself adequate time to process before starting a new relationship.

breaking up, thoughtful manDon't look for so many distractions from the pain, emptiness, or heartache that you fail to process the emotions of loss adequately. You're supposed to grieve a lost relationship in which you'd invested yourself emotionally. Think about it - what kind of person could just say, "Whatever" and walk away as if nothing had happened? Ride it out - turning to destructive distractions like drugs, alcohol, casual sex, etc. will only make things worse, and can actually prolong the entire grieving process. If you try to hide from the pain, it just waits around the corner and jumps out at you as soon as the temporary relief of your "distraction" wears off. The best and only way to get to the other side of the sadness is to go straight through it with a clear head. Believe it or not, it's the fastest way as well. It won't be long until you do feel better.

breaking up, sad blonde womanIf you were the one who got "dumped," avoid the temptation to chase after your ex, ask questions about what went wrong, and try to "fix" everything. It will only strengthen your ex's resolve to push you away, and will make the breakup much harder and more painful than it needs to be.

If your ex has done things to hurt you (other than breaking up), don't stoop to that level. It's pathetic and cruel and complicates your emotions -- your basic hurt and sadness is enough without adding confusion, guilt and other anxieties. You will get over it, you will feel better, and you will feel happier than you ever imagined the day you realize you're really starting to be over it -- the simpler your path from A to B, the easier and quicker it will be.

breaking up, thoughtful man on phoneAlthough you may be tempted to take revenge, or send notification through third parties about your great success in life since the breakup - don't exert the energy. Allow things to run their course without your intervention - they have a way of working out just fine in the end.

Never contemplate suicide. You are ending a relationship - and even though it's hard to believe it, you are not ending life itself. Give yourself time to recover from the shock and sadness without entertaining thoughts of harming yourself. If you find you can't shake these thoughts after a few days, then you need to seek psychiatric help immediately.

Please remember too that if it didn't work the first time and the second or third time with this person, you have already promised yourself that "this time it will work out" and "if only I had another chance". You did, and it didn't, and you do not need any more proof because deep down, you already know that it doesn't work between the two of you. that it's not going to work. For the sake of your heart and your health (emotional and physical), let go and move on.

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