I know this sounds right out of Shakespeare, but my issue is that my beloved little brother, to whom I was so close when we were kids, came to visit me for a month from Russia and ended up sleeping with my wife. I sent them all to Disneyworld to experience America while I worked on my school papers, and this is what happened. Although this betrayal took place decades ago, I’m ashamed to say , and my wife chose to stay with me although she never denied loving my brother too, I think I am still fuming. Nobody was really happy after that. How could she have destroyed our family, and my own family of origin?
Betrayed

You are in the position of having to forgive a very ordinary act that happened to have grievous consequences. Unfortunately, people often commit adultery with those who are convenient and close, such as family members and work colleagues, where it does the most harm. What's clear from your letter is that you haven't forgiven your wife, and now the issue is that you make her feel guilty about something she can't take back, and the guilt you continue to make her feel and the outrage you continually re-invoke is ruining your life.

It was a careless act, proving that "people are rude, crude, and indifferent, often without intent."  Your challenge is to stick to the truth of the situation, that your wife was thoughtless, but not meaning and planning to hurt you for the next twenty years.  Your mental health and family life depend on you being able to find a way to forgive everyone involved for this incident.

I can help you further, and so could many other people, but first you must accept the basically average human behavior it represents, so you don't continue to turn your wife and brother into powerful monsters. They did a regrettable thing on a vacation decades ago. Don’t let it ruin your “today.” 

Cupid! Am I a Fool or Just Acting Naturally?

Am I bad man, a fool or just acting naturally? A while ago my ex (who immediately found another partner - maybe even before we broke up) came over to get the rest of her furniture. It had been a pretty mutual parting. We had started talking on the phone again and long story short, we ended up in bed.  

Now we see each other every once in a while, never mention our changed status, and have a nondescript romance in that we don’t know what to call it, or care not to label it. I’m still single and a little lonely but don’t want to get back together, except perhaps to have the occasional sex-and-cuddle session. I don’t even know if she’s still with the new guy. Cupid, am I spitting in the eye of Love? Am I ruining my chances to meet someone new?
Worried 

Love will have no trouble finding you, as long as you are open to new people, and are getting out in the world and exposing yourself to opportunity. If you THINK, however, that you are ruining your chances by occasionally hooking up with your ex, you have certainly found a way to make yourself feel bad. My psychic hit for you is that it looks like the most significant partner of your life appears after you have a major breakthrough with your own self, and feel you have achieved to a much greater degree, the inner balance and peace you seek. I see also that you have a to-do list a mile long. It’s making you nervous! Take things one step at a time, don’t worry about love. There is someone you’re destined to meet, but it’s later than sooner.

Psychic advice columnist  Elissa Heyman practices psychic counseling and healing in person and by phone. Her website is www.elissaheyman.com