There’s a funny thing that happens when someone like you starts lightening up and changing for the better. The people that have been able to feel good at your expense, who liked it that you were down because it made them feel a little better, can get very upset. You are changing and they are not. If you do not have to deal with them, don’t. Find other people to be close to; you must create your own family. It will be a giant waste of time and energy to figure out how to please them, because only being dysfunctional will please them, and that’s not how you are now. Seek out functional people and make yourself happy.

Cupid! Will This End Badly?

I'm a single woman, and have had the same boyfriend for fifteen years. We parted on good terms. It was just time for me to be by myself again. He immediately found someone else. I was glad he did, because I felt bad about ending it so suddenly. Now it turns out, the woman he's with is only available on the weekends and she far away, and he's started coming around again. I don't want to get involved seriously with him, but sometimes I'm glad to see him and have the comfort of intimacy. Do you think this is going to end badly?
Worried About the Implications
 
I don't know about "ending badly"--it creates more of a "fuzzy" picture. It's all going to be over in May, you're going to find someone else, end of story. That's my psychic answer to you. My other answer to you is, stop paying such close attention to every little thought and emotion and spend more time learning things. There are a lot of talents you want to practice, and skills you want to develop and hone. Creating a fuzzy line keeps you wondering about your own psychology--it keeps you dealing with psychology. Didn't you separate so you could have more time for creative pursuits? Take it, take the time you've got and make good use of it. The only danger I see for you is that you’re preoccupied with yourself and your personal circumstances, and don’t have as much time and energy as you could have, for more rewarding pursuits.

Cupid! Why Am I So Critical of My Friends?

I am really bothered by something that seems different about me. (I’m 30, single, female, attractive, financially secure): Whenever I’m with my friends, I notice they easily express affection with each other, and seem genuinely caring. They act very accepting of each other when I’m secretly judging what they say as being egotistical, or not honest, or that they’re just trying to get attention. What’s the matter with me? Why can’t I just enjoy people and accept them like other people seem to be able to do? 
Judgemental

You are now noticing that other people are more open-hearted: that’s the first step in opening up yourself. It’s a process that is rewarding at any age. Your friends are not at the same level of consciousness as you are, even though they appear happier—don’t fault yourself for noticing “where they’re at”. Why don’t you try making new friends around shared interests, by taking a class or going on a group outing around one of your interests? I see you are very creative, perhaps there’s an arts and crafts program for kids that could use your help. Most of all, don’t judge yourself for where you find yourself in relation to others, just notice that now, you want to improve and be happier.

 Psychic advice columnist  Elissa Heyman practices psychic counseling and healing in person and by phone. Her website is www.elissaheyman.com