Dear Confused
It is mental torture for you to strive towards doing something. Accept that you are in an uncomfortable situation of not knowing, but clearly not ready to leave yet. Especially, don’t expect to come to a conclusion right now as Mercury is retrograde until the end of September—it’s hallmark is to go back and forth with issues, but not conclude. You don’t know, but you’re not ready to go! You can’t argue with that, you can’t fight it, you just live through it until you come to the more loving conclusion you desire.
 

Going Downhill
I moved to Phoenix 4 years ago and it has been awful. I don't even have a friend to go to coffee with, let alone a lover. This has been especially difficult because when I lived on the east coast I had a ton of friends and my fair share of romance. For some reason I just don't blend here. As a result, I've gone downhill emotionally and physically. I was told that Venus and Mars cross in my chart directly over Phoenix and that is part of my problem. I want to relocate but don't know where to go. I had a chart done and the astrologer said to go to L. A. but Pluto runs right through it. My sun line is on the east coast (where I want to return but am afraid of making the wrong choice again) but the astrologer said that because of my progressed chart that is not a good place to go. Her selection took me by surprise because I have never desired to live in L. A. So, now what do I do? 

Dear Downhill
You’re out of touch with your own center and your own inner compass. You really don’t think you can be trusted with figuring out anything. You don’t trust your feelings to guide you to the right place. However, you did mention you want to return to the East Coast and that’s what you should do, not because it may or may not work out, but because you’ll be back on the good foot, listening to your own self. Try that, and see how that works, and give it at least four years like you gave whoever sent you to Phoenix. I invite you to try the “access intuition” exercise on this website, it’s an exercise in consulting your own self. 

Destined to be Alone
I feel I am destined to be alone from a romantic standpoint. I have many friends but have been unable to find the one to spend my life with. Any thoughts? 

Dear Destined
I feel like don’t give of yourself, really. It’s just like your letter: very sparse, no yearning, no detail, with kind of a “case closed” attitude-- and what’s behind that is that your heart chakra is in some way closed to your own self and the ability to adore openly and be openly adored. You’re in the process of opening your heart chakra. 

You seem quite talented and ambitious—notice that in areas where you are confident, you do very well. When you have the will to work on your relationship with yourself, you will find the processes and people because “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”